As time goes by

This is something that a friend sent to me, and I feel like sharing it....

As you go through life, you learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time.

You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.

You'll fight with your best friend.

You'll blame a new love for things an old one did.

You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Update

Back again. A break of over 4 months this time...caused partially by work and partially by the fact that there was no longer a computer at home...

So many changes have happened in my life since Feb....let's see

1) Biggest one: Moved out and set up my own place with an old school friend, Nu. This was something I had been planning to do for quite some time and now feels so great to finally be independent and responsible for myself. Learning new things every day now...! It's been a great two months (moved in April), setting up house and shopping for household stuff, learning how to cook, grocery shopping, buying a computer...

2) Office got sealed: This was way too traumatic. Especially since the new office isnt in Delhi...it's in Gurgaon and there are commuting issues....Felt weird. Still does

3) Got a promotion: Third one in three years, so can't complain there :-)
I finally have a proper team now and much more responsibility along with all the resultant stresses...make or break time??

4) Had a first-hand experience of the "30th Birthday blues": Self-explanatory....

5) Started walking again. The regular, daily, brisk walks I used to do some time back which I gave up when work got too hectic. M now trying to be as regular with this as possible.Back needs it!

Anyway now that i finally have my computer and the net connection is up and running, I hope to get some serious blogging done. But knowing me, I'll probably still be as erratic as ever!

So then, here's looking to the future. Prost!!

That time of the day...

It's getting close to bedtime and the old familiar ache is back in place..The urge to pick up the phone and call you, to hear your voice one more time, oh just one more time...To ask you why the goodnight messages stopped without anything being said by you or me..To tell you how my day was and ask you how yours went...Of course what I most want to know, I'll never have the courage to ask you.

Maybe you see my pain but choose to ignore it. Easier that way of course. And gradually I suppose we'll each make our peace with the situation and get on..and fade out of each other's lives like ships passing in the night..

But for now, the silence of the phone is deafening.

Bigot or plain stupid??

A friend emailed me a link that I just have to share with others. This guy deserves all the publicity he can get!!

Retail therapy

Its amazing what a pick-me-up an afternoon of shopping and mall-crawling can be. Especially when you find the pair of jeans that fits just right, even though you're not what you used to be 2 years back...and the sweater in that particular shade of electric blue that you always dreamed of....and when you end it all with a sugarfree chocolate gelato....

Thinking dark thoughts

Sometimes you go thru life with your eyes closed. Or worse, your mind. You are so damn concerned about just making it thru this day and then the next and then the next, you forget that's not what the whole thing is supposed to be about. And you end up missing out on so much, so much that could have changed your life in so many ways....so you reach this point where nothing you have seems worth the price you paid for it....and you suddenly wonder, what the hell do i do now?????????????

Of all the....!!!!

An article in the newspaper yesterday caught my eye. The Delhi government has decided to move all male teachers employed in MCD schools, from the morning shift to the afternoon shift. Apparently the morning shift has a majority of female students, while the afternoon shift consists primarily of male students. Keeping in mind the current security concerns of women in Delhi, it was felt that girl students would be more comfortable dealing with female teachers. Interesting.

Now, I do remember being in school and having male as well as female teachers. Not once did the gender of the person concerned become an issue - we were more concerned about how they taught us, what sort of support we received from them, how they dealt with discipline issues, how much free time they gave us to go do our extra-curricular stuff, and so on.

However it seems that life has become more complicated since then. There have recently been a couple of cases where male teachers have mentally and physically abused their female students. So in a knee-jerk reaction, the Government in all its wisdom has decided on a Taliban-like ban on male teachers in morning shifts. Great. I’m sure the girls feel much safer now. Now if only the Government would also find a way to segregate the roads, the public transport, cinema halls, maybe even have separate shopping times for men and women…after all eve teasing happens anywhere and everywhere right?? Why just stop at schools. Why not have segregated hospitals and clinics, with women doctors for females and male doctors for the men. The possibilities are endless.

Of all the simplistic solutions being offered to deal with the problem of eve-teasing and sexual abuse, this has got to take the cake. Instead of strengthening the law and order situation and enacting tougher laws which would make anyone think twice before harassing a girl, they go and tar all male teachers with one brush. I wonder what the affected teachers think of this. Will they speak up against it, or accept the new rule quietly and in a way condone the twisted thinking behind the move?

Come to think of it, this is the same kind of “logic” that has made a number of colleges ban their female students from wearing skirts and jeans. I guess women who wear salwar kameez or saris never get harassed or raped or anything.

As a young working woman in this horribly unsafe city of Delhi, I know what if feels like to be followed, ogled at, harassed, be the butt of remarks….I don’t think any woman would seriously believe that segregation can be a solution to this. What we need is a change of attitude among the men, with respect to women. And we need better laws and stricter enforcement. And a supportive police force that cares and shows that it cares.

Don’t try to create unnaturally “safe” environments for us. Let us live in the real world as human beings, and let us do it with our dignity intact! Is anybody listening???